ocial media can be such a positive presence but can also be isolating. Over the years I have have been really active on social media and also deleted all of my social media sites. I try to always be attentive of if social media is having an overall positive or negative presence in my life and make changes accordingly. I think that social media sites can be a great creative outlet and way to keep up with friends. With that being said, I’ve deleted my instagram completely before when I felt that I was focusing too much on the likes, and I rarely use twitter. The FOMO can also be a little too real. These are some of the tips I have com up with to help navigate social media and keep it as positive as I can.
Don’t focus on the likes. Literally, just don’t. When I first had an instagram years ago I noticed that I would share these happy memories or photos that I loved and when they didn’t get very many likes compared to other people I found myself feeling insecure. It took these happy moments and tainted them. I deleted my instagram and I think after about a year I decided to make one again. If I ever feel myself looking at my phone too much checking to see how a post is performing I will put my phone on airplane mode or I just have notifications turned off. (Having notifications turned off for social media is something I 100% recommend)
Avoid fomo. Okay so this one is soooo much easier said than done. Even if you’re not that close with someone— seeing a group of people you know all hanging out can damage your self esteem. Sometimes when I see a post, I’ll feel bad for not being invited but more often than not, I wouldn’t have wanted to go or be invited in the first place.
Leave your phone at home or have a cleanse. I always enjoy these because it forces me to realize just how often I go to grab my phone. I know sometimes I go on social media and just scroll without even looking at what i’m seeing.
Just delete the app all together for a while. If anything, this can help you realize how much you mindlessly go on sites just to scroll. Once they are not there anymore, you’ll start to notice just how often you opened your phone to check nothing.
You control who you follow. Follow accounts that make you happy. Unfollow those that don’t. Simple.
You don’t have to watch every snap story, seriously. I don’t think I’ve ever actually sat and watched every story people have posted. I’ve had friends say that it stresses them out to have stories left unseen. I’ll be honest, I don’t understand this at all so I can’t really offer any insight here except, I promise it’s not that interesting. Just don’t watch them 🤷🏻♀️
People only share the BEST parts of their lives on social media. THIS ONE IS SO IMPORTANT. When I was in Greece I was posting on my instagram story frequently and people were texting me saying how great my life was and what not and this is when I truly discovered how isolating social media can be. Before I left for Greece, I was months into a bad spell with my chronic depression. I was in danger of failing multiples classes and couldn’t get out of bed most days. Hearing people say my life looked so perfect was frustrating for me because, although, I was living my best life that week and was having the time of my life, it didn’t mean that my life was perfect. I didn’t have my life together at all and it really bothered me that people thought that and were feeling discouraged.
When it comes down to it, it’s our job as followers to not let social media have a negative impact. It’s not the fault of the girl posting bikini pictures that you feel insecure. We all are at different points in our life and we all are guilty of showing the best versions of ourselves and our lives on social media. At the end of the day, we control how social media makes us feel, not the people posting.
Don’t let social media blind you from all of the blessings you have in your life.